Beyond Borders, Beyond Regret

I worked as a government official before the India-Pakistan partition. My colleagues called me Binal Babu. Our staff included both Hindus and Muslims, working under English officers. Even though the British ruled over us and there was unrest everywhere, my life was simple. I worked during the day, came home in the evening, enjoyed good food, took long walks, and spent my nights at a tea shop with my best friends—Karim, Usif, Abdul, and Sharma. When we were together, religion never crossed my mind.

I often wondered how freedom fighters found the courage to endure so much pain. Sacrificing everything for the country seemed impossible to me. My part in the movement was just talking about it with my friends at the tea shop. We all enjoyed debating about current events. In fact, most people were like me—watching, talking, but never taking action.

At work, the English officers treated us badly. They shouted at us for small mistakes, insulted us, and made us feel inferior. Their words hurt me deeply. I tried to ignore them and think positively, but it was hard. I hated them inside, even though I acted polite on the outside. I did my work well, but I was always waiting for the moment I could leave and meet my friends—the only time I felt free.

I needed my job to support my family, so I stayed quiet. But my frustration kept growing. I had no way to release it, so I took it out on my wife. She never argued back. A few hours later, she acted as if nothing had happened. But when she had enough, she took out her anger on our children.

Then, everything changed.

The British left, and India was divided. Suddenly, people like me, who had always stayed quiet, became aggressive.

When I heard that my brother and his family were killed in Lahore, I was deeply sad. But that sadness soon turned into anger. I joined a group of angry men and became violent. I surprised myself. Where was this anger when we were fighting for freedom? Maybe now, I felt safe expressing it.

But soon, I realized what I had done. How could I take revenge on innocent people who had nothing to do with my pain? It was like searching for a lost coin on the street which I lost at home.

For years, I convinced myself that I did the right thing. I told myself, “They started it.” I believed it was all part of God’s plan and that I was just a small part of it. Also, I wasn’t alone in the violence, and I wouldn’t be alone in hell either.

But I never felt peace. No one punished me, no one called me a criminal, yet my own thoughts tormented me. The ‘hell’ people talk about after death—I was already living it.

I knew one thing for sure—I did not want to pass this bitterness to others.

To make up for my past, I started helping people and giving to charity. It made me feel better for some time. But during quiet moments, the guilt still came back. What if people found out what I had done? “Cat went to Hajj after eating 100 mice”. Would they call me a hypocrite?

Then, I turned to meditation. It was difficult at first. But after years of practice, I slowly changed. The past still crosses my mind, and I still wish I had never done those things. But now, the pain no longer controls me the way it once did.