Men’s shoe

What does a boy see when he is young? He sees his mom managing the home, meals, taking care of children, cleaning, washing, etc. Even if she goes to the office. 

He sees the predominance of men in sports, politics, corporate, etc. while women are more involved in the field of education, mostly teachers.

He sees papa coming back home, lying on the sofa, demanding tea and food. While mom is coming back home and heading straight to the kitchen. If she needs to travel out, she makes sure everything at home is taken care of.

What is the boy supposed to learn?

“He is born privileged!”. “He is the man of the house, the rule-maker”.

We hold men responsible for women’s condition. We talk about our rights, women’s liberation. Don’t you think it is strange to demand respect, care, and love? 

I am also among those women who often think that men have been insensitive towards women for a long time; Ahaliya, Sita, Dhaupati, and many women of the past, and also today, who have been victimized.

A few years ago, I saw an English movie, Yenti. The story was about the time in Poland when women were not considered for education. Their duty was only to serve husbands and take care of family, home, and children. One day, a baby girl was born to a couple in a small town. The child’s father decided to educate his daughter at home. She soon became a smart, intelligent, and learned girl and wanted to pursue college. She disguises herself as a boy and goes for higher studies. Everyone thought of her as a man. She was sincere and focused. The situation pushed her, and somehow she got married to another girl, but she managed to keep the distance from her.

She, as a husband, realized how it feels to be a man.  She had never experienced such attention before. The wife was concerned about her all the time, fulfilling all the small needs. Soon it became a habit. Sometimes she scolded her wife for being so dumb; the wife felt bad but did not react.

After a few months, she realized that the truth would not be hidden for long and she decided to leave the place. But before leaving she educated her wife. The wife got the knowledge and learned to know about her inner strength.

From this story, try to put yourself in men’s shoes. Then we will find that men and women are behaving according to a pattern; a habit.

It is not a man and women fight. Often, the weak suffers and the boss dominates. The teacher dominates the students, parents dominate the children. It is a vicious circle.  Only self-awareness can break it.

When we meditate and make conscious efforts, it helps us to find our interests and hidden potential. We are weak,it is not anybody’s fault, it is a challenge, an opportunity to be more aware.

​Peom 

Khudi ko kar buland itana,

Ki har taqdir se pahle,

khudha bande se khud puchhe,

Bata teri raza kya hai.

“Raise your potential so high that before writing your fate God himself asks you to tell me what you want.”